Three other teachers from Kita--Araki, Shugyo, and Umeno--picked us three up on the way. Tanaka has a huge house, especially by Japanese and Tsushima standards. It's two-story, with a huge tatami living room. The Tanakas had prepared a whole pile of food. There were salads, drumsticks, and soup already on the table, along with two large bowls for nabemono The setup was simple: the bowls were half-filled with water, and were on top of a heating flame. The gas was turned on, then meat and vegetables from nearby plates were added to the bowl to stew.
When we were ready to take them out to eat, Tanaka pointed out two bottles of sauce. We poured some of the sauce into our bowl, and took stuff from the main cooking bowl and let it cool and soak in the sauce. There was ponzu, soy sauce, and a tangy green kool-aid-looking mixture. Tanaka explained that this was called mizutaki, a Fukuoka specialty.
I sat at one end of the table with Rose and Tanaka. We had a great time talking. Tanaka told me about his family: they have two children, a university-aged son and a high school-aged daughter. The son being the elder is apparently regarded as the more difficult among Japanese people. Something about daughters being more agreeable and submissive, and sons being more challenging. I know next to nothing about parenting, but I'd think daughters would be at least as difficult if not more so than sons.
Anyway, Tanaka and I talked a lot about teaching. I found out that elementary and junior high school teachers don't get moved nearly as often or systematically as high schoolers do. It sounds like they have a lot more say in the matter, too. He also explained that when he was in school, teachers were in high demand because, at the greatest expanse of the bubble, most graduates were heading straight into business to chase after money. I wonder if teacher salaries were scaled up to be competitive with the private sector...
While we were talking about education, I mentioned my plans to try teaching back home. I told him I was worried about the differences between teaching in America and in Japan. My biggest concern is taking charge of the students. Tanaka explained that when he was a kid, teachers could and did hit students, and that it went on without any interference from parents. Nowadays, he says, teachers aren't allowed to do that, and parents increasingly complain about teachers disciplining their kids.
Like most men his age in Japan, Tanaka smokes. After he got back from ducking out the back door for a cigarette, I asked why he doesn't smoke inside. He discreetly gestured to his wife, said, "If I smoke inside...," and stuck two fingers from his head like horns.
At one point, he showed Rose and me a room adjoining the living room. Inside were some paintings and other framed art. One was a head crafted from paper, made by Tanaka's mother on his daughter's birthday. There was a drawing of an ox--his daughter's birth sign--and an inspirational poem that I was shocked to find I was able to read.
We somehow got on a tangent about the inoshishi in Tsushima, which led to the Inoko festival. Inoshishi are problems for farmers, as they root around the ground digging up food. From what I remember hearing, one night every year, children traditionally go from farmhouse to farmhouse and ask for candy in exchange for not disturbing the crops. That's remarkably analogous to western trick-or-treating; I wonder how much influence the one had on the other.
This somehow led to another tangent about the deer population in Tsushima. With so many deer, hunters are paid by the city to bring in carcasses.
Anyway. There was a whole pile of food. Megumi didn't sit down to talk to us at all the entire night. She stayed busy, buzzing around the kitchen, serving one dish, preparing the next, clearing the table of empty plates, and generally playing the hostess. Megumi's from Kansai, which is famous for (among many other foods) takoyaki. She cooked some for us, and Rose helped out.Observing Megumi, I realized that this is exactly how I've seen hostesses behave in snack bars. They flit around, refilling drinks, telling jokes, facilitating conversation, and serving food. That's the hospitality Japanese men go to snack bars looking for, and that's why they pay out the nose for the hostess' company. Understanding it doesn't make me any more comfortable with paying a woman to sit and talk to me, but it sure is interesting.
Eventually, things started winding down. Araki, Umeno, and Shugyo got steadily drunker, and began calling me Japanese. During conversation, we happened upon the fact that I had decided to leave in July. When Umeno heard this, he reached across the table and play-slapped me across the face.
I had work the next day, thanks to graduation rehearsal, so I (literally) bowed out at around 11:30. Megumi was still cooking: onigiri with coffee, after all the rest of the food she'd made. I had understood we'd be taking a taxi back, so I was ready to call one up when Tanaka told me his wife would drive me back. Rose and Gavin were ready to call it a night, too, so Megumi drove us all back home.





